Winning

Being a sport enthusiast as well a sport person for me winning or losing meant playing a game and applied to life it meant nearly the same. Being a mechanical and a cryogenic engineer, mathematical solutions were never a part of winning – as a win only meant sum total. A win-win situation is an expectation and not a solution. Relationship building involves a win-win strategy to move ahead on the grey path not idealizing the perfectionist attitude. You live and let live. Accept failure. Win is at a dead line! Parameters are measured, evaluated here and in competition the winner adjudged. For some - winning is habit and for some it’s not. Those who loose and learn from losses are richer than winners as the experience of losing and learning makes it wealthier on a path to wisdom. Arjun Vajpai a 16 year old was youngest to scale the Mt. Everest on May 22, 2010. A few hours later Jordan Romero, a 13 year old became the youngest to conquer the same Mount. Arjun in an interview said - “My sleep deprived body wanted to abandon the climb many times but I ignored the resistance of my body and resolved in mind to complete the climb” – Both their journeys were to compete within themselves. Their unidentified human potential was conquered. The journey itself was a win. Bench marks are often revised to allow human potential to unleash – that’s a win against your-self. Budha Says – “It is better to conquer yourself than to win a thousand battles. Then the victory is yours. It cannot be taken from you, not by angels or by demons, heaven or hell”. Mahatma Gandhi –“Satisfaction lies in the effort, not in the attainment, full effort is full victory” – “Winning isn't everything--but wanting to win is.” - Vince Lombardi. Priya Kumar in her book “I am another you” says – “There is nothing wrong with the outside world, if we sort out the world inside”. I found similarity between winning and victory. Victory is about – “success in a struggle against difficulties and obstacles and a state of having triumphed”. It’s about achievement. Winning is summarized well by Ronald Reagan – “My philosophy of life is that if we make up our mind what we are going to make of our lives, then work hard toward that goal, we never lose - somehow we win out”.

“The 8th Habit” by Stephen Covey tell us to find our Inner Voice. May be in his words we need to conduct our own funeral as we live today and introspect what we missed and what we need to do to leave an image as we pass away. I plan a re-visit the internal thought chain and focus on what need to be done to achieve an image of the victorious me. Winning is not being THERE, winning is about putting yourself to test.

“Go further to get closer”

In the laboratory of life, there is a Law of Attraction. It is about thoughts that propel and attract health, wealth and happiness. Happiness is still an IDEA defined and appreciated and understood in a different perspective. For some it’s a search of someone to fall in love or be loved by someone. The distances are insignificant as thoughts attract and we follow. Distance is a boon in a virtual world we live. Desire catapults distances and boundaries are then insignificant. It’s about heart beats, vibrations when we reach out to people we love. Imagine speed and comfort of travel and frequency of flights to fantasy. Imagine and be there superseding speed of thoughts. Convenience counts. Being close is a matter of illusion, a feeling; being physically close is a reality. "Life without travel is like reading a book without turning a page." Experience is like turning pages of the live’s laboratory. You need to leave the shore, to see frontiers of unknown. Who knows the one whom you want to share your love is where? Put thoughts on Google search engine. Check out and “CHECK IN” at the flight desk to see what and who awaits your destiny. Nothing is far, boundaries are imaginary. Get closer and get happier through the laws of attraction.

Condition Serious Hai! - Bhai

I recollect a meeting of Alumni of my Engineering College a couple of years back. Though some of us met after many years there were seriousness on faces. The tags on their shirts indicated their name so that in spite of the fact that people and faces changed seriousness evades the way seeing the name tag and people start communicating. Some did and some did not. The agenda included introduction of self to the rest – this was a more serious affair where some of the members spoke about their career growth, how they worked in some MNC’s and their positions at the end of the career. Serious matters on targets and time schedules for the budgets that we have all seen through – but was this the time to speak about such serious things? I being the organizer looked at my old friend Bala to the stage, by-passing the sequence of introduction list. Bala came up held the mike and told a story when he arrived in the then Bombay with his University Engineering Degree from Kerala. He said - “That was my first travel in the BEST bus and came the conductor and asked him in Hindi/Marathi something he could not understand. But a keen watcher he had watched others answering when conductor enquired to them with his characteristic style. Answering the bus conductor Bala told “Balasubramaniam”. And conductor laughed and then in his broken English said “Enkai GO?” Bala understood the fool he made himself of in giving his name when asked for the destination for that day’s travel? Bala remembered the scenario when the woman on his side said “Prabhadevi” the man in front told “Haji Ali”, the good looking lady said “Annie Besant ” and the fat lady on the side said –“Mahalaxmi” None who followed were serious as the previous ones – life is simple, yar! Don’t take anything Serious – After all none of us have any control in anything that happens around us forget about what can happen to us the next moment.

TASTE BUDS

When Shri suggested to Megna, my second daughter that we go to Kareem’s for dinner, I had little idea of the food that will be served that night. A ride in the Delhi Metro that we enjoyed took us to Chandini Chowk. “Karim’s” - Shri mentioned to the cycle rickshaw puller and I was a bit reluctant initially to climb on a pedestal that I did some years ago in Visakhapatnam. But this was a superb ride, enhancing my thoughts with the cool winter breeze waving past our faces. We passed through the narrow lanes rather roads that enriched life with business of printers along with the road side stalls engaged on making food that was aromatic. The queue of cycle rickshaws moved at ease like the Range Rovers move about as we climb up the hills to see the sun-rise in Kanjanjunga with horns and whistles that nestled a lovely scenario and backdrop. The small shops around sold silver and other spices and people crowded to buy and sell as well to eat. Wow, that drive in the cycle rickshaw is different from the one you can experience in Kolkota streets. In a jiffy we alighted at the dhaba, named Karim’s and the restaurant was conspicuous by its presence a bit inward from the gully we got alighted – “This is the place!” – Shri said. As I read the menu and the details on that, I was fascinated. Haji Zahiruddin comes from a family whose bloodline extends back to the chefs who conjured elaborate feasts in the courts of Mughal emperors. Generations of chefs honed their culinary wizardry in the nearby Red Fort until the last Mughal Ruler was toppled by the last British ruler in 1857. Returning to Delhi in 1911 after his family spent decades in exile, Haji Karimuddin, the grandfather of the present owner , setup shop in the same alleyway where his descendants now prepare their family recipes, each one a closely guarded secret. Secrets are worth keeping as they preserve the original tastes! Times of India wrote once –“Karim has stuck to the typical Mughlai menu....the mughlai dishes have resisted the onslaught of offbeat culinary skills. We ordered some dishes and as the aroma spread, the presentation attracted our taste buds even before we ventured to put our hands on the dishes. Let’s have one more portion of this and an “OK” came instant to support the need to fulfill our taste buds. Once we finished and paid the bill we knew “even paupers can eat like kings”. I have tasted mutton raan in a Karachi restaurant and rack of lamb and Firni in an Afghan restaurant in Jeddah – juicy and tasty are the minimum I can narrate. They belong to the Mughlai cuisine. As we returned and boarded the Metro back home to Dwaraka, I commenced and indulged in the thought of culinary skills and the surrounding scenarios that came up in mind. As my elder daughter Divya wanted to do her graduation, she chose to do it in Hospitality Management and I was not so thrilled initially. But then options and perspectives evolve on time and you grow in any chosen field doing your best to exceed excellence. Shri is a product of Dadar Catering College and had tested his skills in cooking. My mom and grand mom were experts and now wonder someone took the brand name –“Grand Mother’s” and extended to ready to eat packaged meals! That’s like the ready-to-eat gourmet cuisine “Kitchens of India” of ITC which my son-in-law markets. My wife’s cousin married a Chinese named Anu and their son Anoop Phalghun a Chef of International Acclaim and now work with Hilton, Melbourne. Recently Sandeep, from Mahe tested his recipe to win the first prize, at the Australia Cooking Standoff, in Mumbai. My own cooking skills come from within, with whatever is in store and fridge and given shape by creative skills as my mood exists each time – I call it “food in mood”! Creativity is an art and comes from within and with a desire to excel, one tend to supplement like in Karim’s or at any other restaurant. TV anchors takes you round the world to show case the different features and tastes that are cooked around the world. Indian-origin Chef Vikas Khanna, cooked for Barack Obama at a fund-raiser event, and is quoted "President Obama actually is a very big foodie. The President loves spicy food and I'm sure he enjoyed our creations, inspired by Himalayas." Taste buds are special structures that help detect tastes. We all have about 10,000 taste buds, mainly on the tongue with a few at the back of the throat and on the palate. They're replaced every two weeks or so. Taste buds surround pores within the protuberances on the tongue's surface and elsewhere. A taste bud is a taste receptor. There are four types of taste receptors, sweet, sour, salty and bitter. These receptors are on various locations of the tongue. As I age there are restrictions that add the four tastes and I slowly reduce my eating habits. An older person may only have 5,000 working taste buds and for some of us -the two white poisons, as someone called it Sugar and Salt in abnormal quantities can harm us. Where the taste buds reside is our tongue and that’s a tough worker. It is made up of groups of muscles and like the heart it is always working. It helps in the mixing process of foods. It binds and contorts itself to form letters. The tongue contains lingual tonsils that filter out germs. Even when a person sleeps, the tongue is constantly pushing saliva down the throat. Many consider the tongue to be the strongest muscle, at times talking tough and covered that only can SHUT by lips - that do the second best job after a KISS. Imagine the culinary journey of a morsel of food from cultivation, packaging, cooking and eating; it all ends as the chain of food traverse through the tongue for a flicker of seconds and we tend to live for those sumptuous moments of truth.

Before I conclude this BLOG on taste buds, it reminded me of my Mother Tongue! Hey, let me find out and write one on the same topic in Malayalam!

നാം എന്ന നമ്മുടെ ചിന്ത (It's our thought that makes us, what we want to be)

"നിർമ്മാണാത്മകമായ കർമങ്ങളിൽ ഉന്നതമായത് സ്വയം എന്ന നമ്മെ സർഗശക്തിയിൽ രൂപപ്പെടുത്തുക എന്നതാണ്" - ദീപക് ചോപ്ര. നമ്മുടെ സ്വന്തം ആശകളേയും സ്വപ്നങ്ങളെയും പറ്റി ഉള്ള അറിവാണ് ഇന്നിൽ നിന്നും നമ്മുടെ നാളെകൾ ചിട്ടപ്പെടുത്തുന്നത്. നാം ജീവിക്കുന്നത് എന്തിനാണ് എന്ന അറിവ് ഉപബോധ മനസ്സിൽ നിന്നും ഉരുത്തിരിൻഹു ബാഹ്യമണ്ടലത്തിൽ കാണുമ്പോൾ ജീവിതത്തിണ്ടേ അർത്ഥം ചായത്തിൽ പകരും. വ്യക്തമായ തീരുമാനങ്ങൾ ആസൂത്രണം ചെയ്യാൻ ഇത് അവശ്യം. ഈ ഇടത്തിൽ നിന്നും സ്വപ്‌നങ്ങൾ നെയ്തെടുത്ത ഭാവി കണ്ടെത്താൻ ഒരു കമ്പാസ് വേണം - അപ്പോൾ യാത്രക്കുള്ള വഴികാട്ടി ആയി നമ്മുടെ വടക്കെന്ന ഭാഗം കാഴ്ച്ചയിൽ വരും. ദൃഷ്ടി കേന്ദ്രീകരിക്കണം ദൂരങ്ങളിൽ ഉള്ള നമ്മുടെ സ്വപ്‌നങ്ങൾ കൈവരിക്കാൻ. മനസ്സ് ആ മാസ്മര ചിന്ദകൾക്ക് ചിറകുകൾ പിടിപ്പിക്കുമ്പോൾ നാം കര്മോൽസുകമായ പ്രവർത്തനങ്ങളിൽ വ്യപ്രിതരാവും. ചിന്ത ശക്തമാണ് - ആ ശക്തി പ്രവർത്തനത്തിലൂടെ പ്രത്യക്ഷമാവും - അവിടെ വെളിച്ചം വഴിയൊരുക്കും, വിജയത്തിന്ടെ നിർവഹണം ആഹ്ലാദിക്കാൻ, സംഗീതം പിന്നണി ഗാനം ഒരുക്കി കൂടെ ചേരും. അഥവാ പറ്റാതിരുന്നാൽ അതിൽ നിന്നും പഠിക്കുക വീണ്ടും ശ്രമിക്കുക അന്ധ്യം കാണും വരെ.

Thought takes speeds more than that of light – Get connected....

That was a winter morning and at the railway station, Shimla. Chill, yes but fine to enjoy. We had boarded the Toy Train from Shimla to Kalka and I walked out as usual to have a glimpse of the place and people. As I peeped in to that tiny compartment, I saw my wife, Usha speaking with Ms. Liloutee, who sat opposite her. They were in deep thoughts and I could see the smiles on both their faces. The train whistled and started its descent down the hills and Usha and I exchanged about our trip that just concluded. Walking around the woods in the hills every morning . The train whistled and moved ahead halting at all stations on the down ward journey. We felt we would have missed the pleasure of this rail journey if Ravinder Singh did not suggest and reserved our tickets. Ravi and Babli drove us up the hill from Amritsar where we stayed with my old friend and colleague. Liloutee got engrossed with her e-Book and read page by page as if the surroundings were of lesser interest than the content she was reading from Kindle note book. My curiosity grew and I asked Usha about her and where she belongs. Liloutee lives in London and with her was her adopted son who was being educated by her, on a cause of charity. I wondered how love and gratitude transcend and take shapes along the Himalayan hills. What made Liloutee provide a holiday for her adopted son coming all the way from UK? By the time we travelled about two thirds of the journey the e-Book was closed and my desire to open a conversation with Liloutee enhanced. I commenced a conversation that opens up in a train. Sooner the discussions went beyond the routine. It was as if we opened up subjects that had different colors and shapes on an architecture that was built by us. It looked as if I was and she did tilt the Kaleidoscope to get across perspectives that emerged with clarity of thoughts. The family probably migrated from India and was in Africa and she moved to UK. Studied psychology and taught this science there. My inquisitive silly question to her – “What do you say when I tell you our mind is like a monkey?” – She whispered in a jiffy – “good”. We went beyond the subject to reading and writing, effect of social media and digital world that encompass the direction of ours and the thoughts of younger generation etc. She quelled and displaced some of my mis-interpretations with logic and deep knowledge. I started correcting my perspectives and a learning process commenced at ease. We alighted at Kalka from where we were to board the same train to Delhi, departed as friends and agreed that we be in touch and with an open invite to visit her house in UK and with an extension for her to be with us in Kerala during her next year’s visit to India. Narrating the points that I appreciated during this very tiny stretch of our journey are interesting. The most interesting point is that a train journey is a better mode than a flight. I recalled my old friend George asking me in a flight from the then Madras to Bombay whether I enjoy the 3rd class sleeper berth vis-à-vis the just fit seat of a flight – we had agreed that it’s the train that makes you connect. The second point is all about communication and if I did not watch Usha opening up with Liloutee, I would not have waited patiently for the e-Book to get closed, oh no “SIGN OUT” - the new terminology. A smile ignites and you start up a chain that leads you to relationships that can last for long. “Learning” is a process that does not have a shelf life or an expiry date – you can initiate with a willingness and attitude that provide you with immense knowledge about people, places and concepts that tend to lead to action that’s worthwhile. In this world of Facebook and other social media or even an ATM, where you may not find real faces, a journey even in a toy train can give you the sense and sensitivity that link to feelings and love that may slowly blossom. Boarders and boundaries are illusions and names and cultures not limitations. My daughter Divya says in today’s world that is nearly a crucible, cultures melt and form new recipes that taste buds of the mind can capture easily to mend and form teams. One can start a new day every time Sun rises on the East and take it along and pursue your intent and couple it with intellect to build bridges. That takes us to unknown frontiers, unseen and not witnessed thus far. Begin with an end in mind - the steps are easier than we believe. The KEY is to START. Knowing that I write Blogs I intend to copy this BLOG to her and mail it to her. Where she is on the day she receives my e-mail, is not a matter, but she sure will get connected to the Shimla-Kalka toy train journey that sparked this topic that you just read.